Talk isn’t cheap - Mental Health
Over the weekend I heard the sad news of 2 more men who were friends of friends...
Both in their 50’s...
Taking their own life.
Both had money in the bank.
A Family.
A Career.
Fit and healthy.
Living a perfectly happy life on paper.
It also came as a complete shock to the people around them.
That’s the scariest part for me.
No sign, no idea, or chance of helping them.
And those sad stories reminded me of something…
Last year I was giving a talk about men’s health to a medium sized company.
During that talk I was discussing part of my own story of working in the City and then leaving for something more fulfilling.
Later that day I got a message from one of the guys who'd been on the Zoom.
He mentioned that something I had said stuck with him.
I’d said that even though for 20 years I worked with a lot of numbers.
Some small numbers and some very large numbers.
I was never interested in numbers, only the people behind the numbers.
But at some point I’d realised the job was becoming less about people and more about numbers.
That coincided with the entertaining side of the job being restricted.
And that’s around the time I wanted out.
The guy mentioned how he’d felt a disconnect with his work for 3-4 years.
He'd felt something similar.
That’s his Silent Struggle we always talk about.
The funny thing is that when I do company talks they ask at the end…
'Does anyone have any questions or comments?'
Here’s something that won’t surprise you AT ALL.
It’s nearly ALWAYS the women who ask questions on the call…
Sometimes you can’t get them to STOP asking questions.
Especially as one answer I give might generate more questions.
So why is it always the women who ask the questions?
Cos guys would rather seek me out on say, LinkedIn…
…and then send me a message in private.
Or grab my email address.
That's what a lot of guys are like.
We either don’t talk at all about what's going on in our head…
Or we’d rather just connect with the person privately who can give us an answer or help us...
Then put our question or issue or struggle out there in the public domain.
I am exactly the same…
I’d rather talk directly to them instead of showering everyone with any issues I have.
So I’m all for doing what feels right for you…
But this is your weekly, monthly…
Fucking daily reminder if you need it, brother.
If things aren't where you want to be in life…
Talk to someone.
It could be a therapist, a coach, a friend, a colleague, your partner, whatever…
That doesn't mean only if things are so bad that you might consider ending it all.
No…
That advice is also for the guys having a shit time...
Maybe going through a career issue.
Marriage issue.
Health issue.
Financial issue.
Or just want more from life...
We ALL want more from life in one way or another.
I guarantee it.
Either way… talking to someone...
Getting it off your chest...
Or even down on paper...
Can be a great help.
Talk to someone, please.
And talking of talking…
A reminder that tickets are now LIVE for our next two WMA dinners.
We already have some great guys coming along…
And I’d love you to join us.
So here’s the link for the LONDON dinner on 15th June
And here’s the link for the COTSWOLDS dinner on 22nd June.
I’ll be back on Wednesday to tell you about the 4 day course with a men’s personal development HEAVYWEIGHT I am about to embark on…
I'm really excited, but..
There’s one BIG problem, and I’ll tell you about it on Wednesday.
Right, book your ticket for dinner now.
And remember, the world needs strong men.
Anthony
Whole Man Academy
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