You’re lying to yourself
I read once that it was ‘negative’ to feel hate.
But then.. If you want to feel love...
Maybe you need to feel hate.
The Yin and Yang.
I mean…
Could you have good without evil?
Darkness without light?
Joy without sorrow?
Anyway before you wonder if I’m gonna go super deep on this topic.
You’ll be pleased to know I’m typing this at 10.30pm on Thursday night.
So I’ll stick to the point of today's Journal.
I’ve said before that I hate social media.
And I do hate it.
It’s slowly sucking the life out of people, relationships, and society.
You’ve only got to walk down a high street.
Go to a kids sports game.
Watch groups of people having dinner together.
Or look down the platform at a train station.
And you’ll see every fucker in town glued to their phone.
Scrolling with their thumb.
Scrolling with glazed eyes.
Scrolling with their mind slowly coroding.
It's really sad, and quite concerning.
(To be clear I’m as guilty as anyone of mindlessly scrolling sometimes).
So ‘Hate’ is the word I use.
But I also LOVE social media (sometimes).
Why?
Because it connects me with men across the world who I’d never have met.
Lets take Garry Banford, the former Special Forces leader I mentioned last week.
I wrote a short post on LinkedIn about the advice he shared.
So far we’ve had nearly FIFTY guys like it...
...and plenty of them connected with me.
Plus, Garry liked what we are ‘about’ and has agreed to be interviewed on the podcast in a few weeks.
That will be a BELTER.
But it was another post that I wanted to share with you and all the other guys reading this…
The post generated more comments and private messages than anything I’ve written for a while.
It’s full of 'Real Talk' because it can be uncomfortable for some men to read.
But see which bits (maybe all of it) resonate with you:
Men hit middle age and start lying to themselves.
They're going through a 'SILENT STRUGGLE'.
Men lie about: 👇
- Being fine with becoming flabby and lethargic.
- Being OK with sleepwalking through life.
- Not being embarrassed to take their top off.
Men lie about:
- Being highly stressed and pretend it's normal and part of life.
- That it's OK working so much and not seeing the family they love.
- Being OK making just enough to cover the school fees and eye-watering car payments.
Men lie about:
- How long they sit and waste time binge-scrolling to escape.
- That there's nothing wrong with porn or a few lines of charlie.
- That getting smashed at the weekend is just letting off steam.
Men lie about:
- Being OK having sex for 3 minutes once a month with the lights off.
- That having to schedule a monthly 'date night' means their relationship is working.
- Getting home just in time to kiss the kids goodnight is winning.
See...
I used to lie to myself that I was happy sitting at a desk for 200 hours a month.
I used to lie that I was happy with being a bit part actor in the rat race and making money for someone I'd never met.
I used to lie to myself that I was happy having to ask permission to take some holiday.
Those were just some of my 'Silent Struggles'.
After working with, and interviewing, HUNDREDS of professional men...
I could write a list of Silent Struggles that would go on for days.
That's why we created the Whole Man Academy in 2018.
For men to first, acknowledge they WANT to lead a better life.
- Be a better man.
- Be in great shape.
- Have more money in the bank.
- Be stronger, fitter, faster.
- Wake up with motivation and determination.
- Enjoy more memorable experiences with those you love.
- Have a partner who is so fucking dazzled by your actions that her friends look at you open-mouthed and ask what your secret is.
- Have a strong network of guys to do cool shit with, who get you, and have got your back.
In short... We want men who WANT to lead an epic life.
I could have written way more about the lies men tell themselves.
And I really mean it when I say I have a long list.
So maybe I'll share some more of those in the weeks ahead.
But I wondered for you…
What have you been lying to yourself about?
Maybe it's just as simple as being happy with ‘your lot’.
Meaning 'Where you are in life'.
But in fact, you’d like to improve one or multiple areas of your life.
Hmmm... Something to think about.
Anyway, I’ll wrap this up with some things you need to know.
On Monday I’m going to share with you a powerful Tool / Resource I created.
It's ideal for you if you've always dreamed of starting a Side Hustle or Side Adventure...
So you can have more excitement in your life...
Or want to make enough money to escape the rat race...
...and spend more time doing what you love.
Plus, next week I’ll also share the dates and locations of the next WMA dinners.
I’ve had messages from plenty of you wanting to come along and meet the other guys.
John, Joe, Jimmy, Mark, Peter, Stuart, Barry, Matthew, Martin, Abe, Jason, Dan...
Be good to meet up again, brothers.
So, that should cover everything.
Have a great weekend.
And remember, the world needs strong men.
Anthony
Whole Man Academy
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