I noticed this after years of helping men...
On Friday I asked you...
If you could seize control of your life and your future...
What would you want to happen?
I got several great replies.
Some are entirely unprintable :)
But here's a few to see which resonate:
1) 'I'd like life to cut me some slack and give me a break.
Over the last few years I have dealt with a marriage breakdown...
Falling out with family...
Coping with not seeing my children every day...
And changing roles within work to carry on earning.
The new job didn't work out the way I hoped.
It's really tested my mental state.'
2) 'I'd stop letting the negative thoughts in my head hold me back from doing...
...the thing I've been continually promising myself I would start.'
3) 'I would like a role where I get job satisfaction and that’s good for my mental state.'
4) 'I need to find a woman who accepts me for who I am, who I have become, to fall in love, settle down, and grow old together.'
5) I'd be in much better shape financially...
I'm not asking to be rich but I want a steady income to be able to live...
...and not worry about the struggles of finances.'
There's a lot of 'Silent Struggles' in there.
Some of those replies came from men who have joined The Network...
And each one of those could be broken down as a topic for The Journal.
But writing about it isn't the same as drilling down on...
...what's really going on...
...and then generating some practical ideas to help men who feel overwhelmed and are spinning a lot of plates.
So today I just wanted to quickly share with you something I posted on LinkedIn about a guy I recently did a coaching/guidance session with.
Here's some of the story...
The world needs a lot of things right now...
But I'm not sure if it needs more life coaches. 😂
That aside, let's say you are...
A man who is thinking of investing in one.
Here's something I have noticed after years of helping men. ↙
You might think it's going to take deep levels of psychological knowledge...
...or some super Ninja mindset tricks.
But nooo.
All you have to be able to do is help a man move forward.
Whisper it quietly but it's the simplest things that are effective.
Questions like...
- Where are you?
- What do you want?
- How can we quickly help you move forward?
I recently got an email from a man who scheduled some time with me as he needed my guidance.
Will in his 50s and has found himself out of work.
A situation he's never been in the previous 35 years of working life.
(Redundancy is harder to navigate the older a man is.)
'Lost, lethargic, directionless, and useless' are the terms he used to describe how he felt.
No man wants to feel ANY of these.
We sat down, he offloaded a bit of his shit going on in his head...
...we talked things through and quickly got him focused on priorities...
...then we identified key action steps to take.. and off he went.
An honest conversation between two men with some guidance...
...encouragement, and pointers thrown in.
And here's what Will sent me a few days later...
'Thanks for checking in!
Things are going well.
I just got an email today from a business for a sales position that would be perfect for me.
I just need to put a cover letter and CV appropriate for the position.
Kind of nervous about it.
I hope things are going well with you.
Thank you again for the time you spent with me.'
Here's something I noticed from the message.
When we first got talking he sounded all of the things he had described...
Lost, lethargic, and directionless.
But now he sounds more positive.
He has a plan.
He's not in the victim mode.
He sounds like he's got his mojo back.
He knows he has to take action to make things change.
He's given himself a greater chance of achieving what he wants.
Can you imagine how different that feels... for Will and the people around him?
Who's more likely to be offered a job?
The lost and directionless man?
Or the focused and upbeat man?
So first off...You don't have to be a 'Mindset Ninja' to help people.
Sometimes it's just being an organised sounding board for them.
That's one of the things the Whole Man Academy has been built on.
Doing the practical things to help men move forward.
I also invited him to check out joining The Network.
Because he struggles with focus and accountability...
...(remember he said he felt lost and directionless?).
And that's what some of the core benefits of The Network are:
Helping you clarify what you want...
(We have regular round table calls to go over all of this, but you do have to actually TURN UP for them)...
And keeping things on track (we have a weekly email tool to help be clear on your priorities).
So if you've been sitting on the fence wondering how joining The Network can help you...
Feel free to hit reply and email me back with your questions...
...or just hit this link and check out the details.
Oh, and later this week you'll get the link to grab...
A ticket to our November WMA dinner in London (16th), Winchester (9th), or The Cotswolds (23rd).
The guys who have joined The Network get first dibs on the spaces.
Look out for that.
And remember, the world needs strong men.
Anthony
Whole Man Academy
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